Okay, so I received many emails about my poll the other day on who does more...husbands or wives. Apparently, people thought I was complaining about what we wives have to do, however, this is not the case. This is what I said at the end..."I'm not complaining of what I have to do...I do feel it's my job as a wife to do all this and more, what I'm complaining about is being unrecognized for everything I do and recognized for everything I don't do.
I would like to elaborate on this matter. This may ruffle a few more feathers but I want to make it clear on where I stand.
I strongly believe that a woman's place is at home. I am applying this towards couples with children. I think it's great that women have all these rights today and can be financially independent BUT if there were more women who stayed home and raised their children and took care of their husbands, things would be a lot better. I know there are going to be women who will say "why can't we do both?"...well, you can, but I feel that something or someone will be deprived somehow.
Let me explain~~If a woman works, most likely she is going to give it her all at work..she has to in order to get respect and keep her job. By the time she gets off work she will more likely be tired and won't tend to ALL the needs that her husband and children need. Working can make you tired and cranky and any kind of venting will be towards the family in one fashion or another. Will she have time to cook supper for everyone or is she going to pick something up a fast food place or even zap something in the microwave?..hmmm good! Will she feel like playing, talking, helping the kids with homework, or will she just want to get a few things done and do something for herself? Can she take off work to see her kids in their programs, award assemblies, help with parties, and see them in their sports activities? Probably not. And what about the husband. Too tired for sex??...making love to your husband and making him feel like a man...that is also part of a wife's job. Meeting his physical and mental needs are essential to a marriage.
My kids can remember every function I have been to for them and know that they can count on me to be wherever, whenever they need me. My husband knows that he and the kids come first. Can you working mothers say the same??
Obviously, this won't apply to EVERY mother/family, but I really do believe mothers should stay home and raise their kids with morals & values. Kids and marriage today have come to an all time low and I think it's due to mothers/wives not doing their most important job that they were born to do.
For the record, I am 31, married for 14 yrs, and mother of 3 kids...8mth, 11 & 13yrs.